Don't even worry about it! If you are honest with yourself, you
can admit that most all couples will face relationship troubles. If you
are intimate with another person, you will have problems. You will fight
some or a lot, you will feel close and at other times distant, you will
feel more love and less love. It is part of being a couple.
This is just going to happen
and it is nothing to be embarrassed about. If you plan for
problems, you can successfully navigate through them. So arguing
and fighting will happen some.
On top of these kinds of troubles, romance will lessen over time. In the
beginning you felt deeply in love and need for each other, but after a
few years you will become more familiar and take each other more for
granted. This is normal. When you first learned to drive a car, it was a
thrill. Now it is a chore. Romance kinda works the same way. It becomes
more routine.
This isn't bad if you are aware of it and can plan on it happening.
There are phases to a relationship, and the first phase is exciting and
thrilling. It can be called the honeymoon phase. You feel very attracted
to each other, you want to be with each other all the time, you feel
deep love and connection. It is marvelous. But, it will pass. It is not
permanent.
The phase that we move into after the honeymoon phase can be called the
me and us phase. There's us, which is good, but we also start to focus
on ourselves more. We get back on track with our own goals and desires.
We stop thinking of our lover all the time. We need to find our own
space within the relationship.
Many couples have huge fights and break up at this stage. Accusations of
"you don't love me like you used to" and "why are you being so mean to
me?" begin to show up. You each privately wonder where the passion is
going and how you can get it back. Men tend to think of leaving and
finding another woman where it will be better (it won't be, the pattern
will repeat).
On the other hand women will tend to internalize the problems. Do I need
to go on a diet? Do I need to be more pleasing in some way? But you both
need to basically be mature enough to understand that the "oceanic love"
phase of the relationship has ended. Keep the relationship fun, but
develop and move forward with your own goals and interests.
Now, if you survive the me/us stage, you are doing well. The next stage
is "long term companionship." Can you live together happily? Will you
enjoy each others company and time together and apart, or will you be
frustrated and irritable? Will you be content or feeling like you are in
a dull routine?
So all of these stages of relationship bring challenges and potential
troubles. If you can work through the challenges, you will learn a lot
and love a lot! Don't let relationship troubles derail you, because they
are going to happen. Instead, figure out how to work through them!
Get Ex Back Action Steps For
This Issue:
1. If you have broken up,
don't worry too much. Fighting happens!
2. See if you can get
together with your ex and discuss what stage you are having trouble in.
3. See if they are
willing to work through it with you.
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